‘I find it HIGHLY inappropriate for them to text my wife’: Employee calls out of work, boss and coworker spam his wife’s phone

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    Gesture - "Boss and coworker texting my wife after I called out"
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    Font - Boss and coworker texting my wife after I called out. Am I feeling right that this is inappropriate? I've been at this job for about 7 months now, it's a very small warehouse/office space, only 3 people including me.
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    Font - Outside of this incident, I have several other problems with the job (hours being cut, pay) but that's a different story. I was out of work last week due to a family emergency on Wednesday and Thursday and had to leave early on Friday. On Friday I told them I would be back Monday.
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    Font - However, that didn't go as planned and on Saturday I realized I wouldn't be back until Monday night. I sent an email, and then Monday morning before work I texted my boss just to give an extra heads up since I haven't gotten an email response, it is our work email so it's not too uncommon for those to go unread on the weekends.
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    Font - 'I'm sorry, I am still out of town dealing with my mom, I will be back tonight, and will be in the office tomorrow morning' I thought that was sufficient enough, so I went back into the hospital and turned my ringer off. This was at 6:00am.
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    Font - I leave the hospital around 2:00pm and check my phone. I don't see any texts from my boss but my wife has sent me several screenshots of them texting her. They blew up her phone at work, asking where I was, am I going to be in tomorrow, what's going on, I can't call out 2 hours before work and they're going to have to have a talk with me.
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    Font - 1: I sent them an email on Saturday, and even if they had said I needed to be in that wouldn't have been possible. 2: they said they tried to text me but I never got any texts or calls from them.
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    Font - 3: In my text i specifically said I would be back tomorrow. So if they had any issues I think sitting down with me then would have worked. 4: my wife works at a very very high stress job where phones are for emergencies only, so her phone being spammed wasn't a good look for her.
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    Font - 5: I find it HIGHLY inappropriate for them to text my wife about anything that isn't an emergency. I called my boss afterwards and he said I needed to be more communicative, which is fine and I understand. But that is something that could've been talked about in person. Was it inappropriate for them to text my wife? Or am I over reacting?
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    Font - GuyBeardmane. 7 hr. ago It's completely inappropriate and they owe your wife and you an apology. Your boss can shove the "be more communicative" statement right up his 2.9k Reply Share
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    Font - 8880800 5 hr. ago Seriously, they have no right to be doing this. Talk about boundaries being crossed icckkkkk! 442 Reply
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    Font - WhitishRogue · 7 hr. ago Your job is between you and your boss. Your coworker has no business snooping into your life. Ask them why they're using her phone number outside of an actual emergency. Severed fingers and heart attacks are emergencies, not planned absences.
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    Font - I think your wife should respond: "In order to get the most accruate respones, please direct all work-related questions to the person who holds that job." Also if they're cutting your pay along with other stuff, it's a bad business / environment. Time for a change. 781 Reply Share
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    Font - OKC2023champs OP. 7 hr. ago My wife 'knew' my coworker outside of work briefly a few years ago through a mutual friend, so it doesn't surprise me they have her number. That point is moot though. Thank you for the response. On top of hours being cut, meaning my pay is going down, I now feel like boundaries were crossed and it is definitely time for a change She's also my emergency contact 303 Reply Share
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    Font - sunfilled_flitters 5 hr. ago 2 I'm in HR, go to a lawyer. That was textbook harassment. Completely inexcusable. There are very few reasons your employer CAN contact your EMERGENCY CONTACT.. If they had heard nothing from you, you were completely MIA, and she was the listed emergency contact, THEN they can call her to confirm the emergency and that's it. They CANNOT be calling her and texting her multiple times trying to find out information, ESPECIALLY when you have already provided an an
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    Font - GO TO A LAWYER. That was harassment.. these bosses of yours, are they the HR? Do you have an HR or are these bosses connected to the HR? Doesn't matter GO TO A LAWYER. Yesterday. 375 Reply Share
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    Font - parkesc 6 hr. ago "I called my boss afterwards and he said I needed to be more communicative, which is fine and I understand." It is NOT fine, because you did nothing wrong. He's the one that didn't see your original email and now he's just turning it around on you - after he could have caused an issue with your wife's job. This incident should be the straw that broke the camel's back. 253 Reply Share
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    Font - nexutus Holy inapproriate. 6 hr. ago This is beyond They either thought they will get your wife to tell them that you were lying or to pressure you to come back earlier (like she will scoold you like a schoolboy) Huge overstepping of boundaries by them.
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    Font - Personally I would insta-quit on them without notice. If you rely on this job tell them that the contact was signed between you and the company and that communication will only happen between the two signinf parties in the future. There is no exception and you will see this as herassment if it happens again
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    Font - south3y 7 hr. ago And you need to talk to your boss and tell him that he needs to be LESS communicative. And specifically, that your wife's number is completely out of bounds for business communication. In fact, you should demand that they delete it from their phones. While you watch.

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